In addition, Chinese women are willing to choose a partner who is older than herself, while western women do not have many requirements on men's ages。 On the contrary, they are more willing to find a young strong man for marriage。 But both the Chinese and western women prefer to choose a man who is able to give her a sense of security, and especially the Chinese women。(Wang 261)

3。1。2 Factors to sustain a marriage

When asked the most important elements to sustain the marriage, Chinese women will mostly consider love, family and children, especially the whole family and children。 Many Chinese women think that marriage is a way for two to live together, and they do not ask for any other need。 In addition to the physiological and psychological needs, they believe that marriage is means to inherit the family line。(Liao 91) In the past, man was dominant in the family economy, and women economically depended on men。 However, women are increasingly involved in the family economy。 Because their economic status gradually improved, their views on marriage has a lot of changes。 Love become a more important element to sustain a marriage and maintain the harmonious relationship between the couple。 

However, western women consider marriage as a contract。(Gan 30) As long as they are married, they must be loyal to each other。 As for them, loyalty is the most important element to keep a happy marriage。 In addition, they also emphasize the importance of family values。 No matter what job their husbands do, they must cherish his family。 Different from women in China, western women think that sex is another important factor to stay married。(Li 316) They do not think that sex is a shame, or unacceptable and unpresentable。 On the contrary, they believe that sex is a good thing, and play an important role in sexual happiness。 western women also think the couple sharing the household duties play a positive role in a long-time marriage。 In western women's eyes, the man should also share housework。 A woman can cook, shopping, decorate house, and look after their children, meanwhile, men can repair cars, clean the yard, and wash dishes。

3。1。3 Views on porce 

As is known to all, the porce rate is very high in the west。 The porce of all sorts of stars or public figures have been reported commonly。(Xiao 341) With a growing number of leftover women, many western women are willing to accept a porce, and think that porce is a very normal thing。 They can't accept the disloyalty of her husband。 Of course, there are a few western women who will not take this method to solve the emotional problem。 But most western women think that if the two do not love each other or have extramarital affair, they will end their marriage。 In addition, when the couple have emotional matters, others rarely give emotional dredging in western countries where fair weather friends abound。 This is another reason for America's high porce rate。

With our society becoming more and more open, the economic and social status of Chinese women gradually improved, and they can speak more on their own behalf in the marriage。 And with the addition of the influence of western culture, some Chinese women dare to choose to porce her partner。 According to the statistics on porce rate in 2015, there is an increasing trend towards the porce rate in China 。 Even so, most Chinese women still fear to porce, because the two persons may have conflicts with children, property and so on。 When they have marriage problems, porce may not be an optional way to solve the problem, and this way mainly exist among women who possess high income and high academic qualifications。 Although their husband may have an extramarital affair, most Chinese women would choose to maintain the marriage。 The stable marriage relationship between couples also results from the collective society in china。 Chinese society is one with human interest, and we Chinese people are so much of our self-esteems。 So when Chinese women have marriage problems, they will talk to friends or go back to parental home alone for a period of time。 After they have been comforted by others, the atmosphere of this mutual concern and care soon make conflicts disappear。 Besides, because of the pressure from family and society, a lot of Chinese women are careful with porce。 In China, women who get married after twenty-five tend to possess higher academic qualifications, higher intelligence, and higher economic income。 Unfortunately, this kind of women in China is not a great option for marriage to most Chinese men, at the same time, this kind of women often has a high expectation on their partners。 This made a great number of leftover women in china。(Wang women 18)来,自,优.尔:论;文*网www.youerw.com +QQ752018766-